Art Alchemy Studio

Mixed Media Art by Chaska Peacock

Saturday, August 04, 2007

Being "Different"

Being different from other people in whose community I lived has always been an issue for me. As an immigrant child learning English in North Carolina, I became an excellent mimic. I even mastered to speak the language perfectly without an accent.
I desperately wanted to be just like everyone else.

What I couldn't master were my insides, my personal beliefs.
For many years, I handled that by remaining quiet, interspersed by episodes in which my inner being freed itself and I scared people by what seemed like bizarre behavior. Wading in a public fountain, a ride in a shopping cart in the parking lot, down a children's sliding board wearing a white cocktail dress......!

Later on, when I tried for more balance by speaking up, I discovered that I was incapable of finesse or tact. It's been a long struggle to accept myself as I am. I am not "different" for the sake of being "different", and I have come to terms with being accepted ....or others. I have to admit, that many times, I find myself more interesting than others who live their lives unexamined, set on automatic. The world is so much more interesting than that!

My art isn't "different" for any reason other than that's what comes out.....I am not striving for
anything other than to express my authentic self. Have you noticed that these days all the publications show the same thing over and over??? What happened to creativity and authenticity?

From the Daily Ohm:

August 2, 2007
Space In Togetherness
Healthy Barriers

As relationships evolve, lives gradually become entwined. We tend to have a great deal in common with the people who attract us, and our regard for them compels us to trust their judgment. While our lives may seem to run together so smoothly that the line dividing them cannot be seen, we remain separate beings. To disregard these barriers is to sacrifice independence. It is our respect for the fact that our lives exist independently of the lives of others that allows us to set emotional and physical boundaries, to explore our interests and capabilities even when people close to us do not understand our partialities, and to agree to disagree. Maintaining healthy barriers is a matter of recognizing the point at which our principles and those of our loved ones and peers no longer overlap.

Human beings must relentlessly fight the temptation to follow the crowd. Naturally, we want to be liked, accepted, and admired, and it often seems that the easiest way to win approval is to ally ourselves with others. When we assume that our standards are the same as those of the people close to us without first examining our own intentions, we do ourselves a disservice. The barriers that exist between us are a reminder that our paths in life will be unique, and we must each accept that "I" and "we" can coexist peacefully. Our reactions, our likes and dislikes, our loves, our goals, and our dreams may or may not align with those of others, but we should neither ask others to embrace what we hold dear nor feel compelled to embrace what they hold dear.

As you learn to define yourself as an emotionally and intellectually distinct individual, you will grow to appreciate your autonomy. However much you enjoy the associations that bind you to others and provide you with a sense of identity, your concept of self will ultimately originate in your own soul. The healthy barriers that tell you where you end and the people around you begin will give you the freedom to pursue your development apart from those whose approval you might otherwise be tempted to seek out. Others will continue to play a role in your existence, but their values will not direct its course, and the relationships you share will remain marvelously balanced and harmonious as a result.


Blogger Unknown said...

The photo didn't appear for this entry.
You sound like you were a wild child. Feral. Is that your connection to cats?

11:44 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was anything but a wild child. I never spoke unless spoken to, and tried to be as invisible as possible.
I did not have my parent's permission to be alive.

8:02 PM  

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